I was about to walk out the door and go to a coffee shop to work when I saw a stack of old books in the doorway, all with “healing” in the title, including Bernie Siegel’s “Peace, Love, and Self healing.” I had to stop and take a look since my mom was debating giving these books away. One of the books was “Weight Loss for the Mind,” by Stuart Wilde.
It’s a pretty small, unintimidating book sort of like “The Four Agreements,” or other Miguel Ruiz titles from Hay House. After sitting down with it, I realized I could read the whole thing in an hour and that’s what I did.
I have some strong thoughts about it, since I loved it but also sort of disliked it. I’m not going to say hate since that is too strong of a word.
Anyway, I immediately loved the way the author put some of the ideas about why we feel pain. He says that we feel pain when two parts of ourselves are in contradiction with one another and in order to overcome this we have to learn to accept the contradictions of life without resistance. We can’t expect anything. We just have to roll with it. This was one of the strongest ideas. I mean, most of us who are interested in health know this. It’s sometimes nice to hear others say it in their way.
So that was the main part of the book and he would go into different aspects of healing such as healing confusion, guilt, anger, etc. The book started out well, but as the book went on, I felt this man was contradictory. He said things like, “If your ego acts up, ridicule it.” Or he referred to some people in an example as “twits.” I especially found it off putting when he says he likes to remind his family and partners that “he or she isn’t too vital,” they are indispensable and that there is a “vast field of opportunity lying just beyond the front door.”
He justifies this by saying that he prefers to be detached and doesn’t assign emotion to anyone or anything, even his close family and partners. I thought this was cold. He even has a part of his book where he advertises another one of his books called “The Quickening,” where he uses some kundalini sexual energy exercise that helps you “lace your visions” and is almost guaranteed to work.
I have a vision of who this guy is. Some dude you might catch at a sex party justifying his nastiness as, well, I can’t attach emotion to this or that person. You want to party?
I get where he’s coming from about the not assigning emotions to people so that we stay positive and in control of ourselves, but this way just seems so cold sometimes.
This book has one very good thing to say and that is that we can’t expect anything to happen. We can focus on we want every day but don’t get peeved if it doesn’t happen. We can try our best to plan, but it may not always come to be but you have to be cool with it. Definitely worth the hour I spent reading it.